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madaboutit

Especially when it's been literally less than 5 min since saying 'I don't know you very well'. Maybe love life advice should wait until the second fucking date.

Don't normally get lectures on me denying myself shit either. But we both know I'll never have your style. Good one of us does at least.

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everythinglost

That's just proper etiquette. You fuck on the first date, offer love advice on the second. And before offering any advice you're legally required to check on whether or not you happen to currently be in a happy, loving relationship. If the answers yes, than you definitely can't offer unsolicited opinions.

Don't worry, it's not a standard it's fair to put anyone up against. Besides, I blame the gloominess. People can probably believe that you wouldn't deny yourself in drink or fucking around, but that's not always the same as fun hedonism.

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madaboutit

Got shit for getting high as fuck too. What other shit counts as fun hedonism?

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everythinglost

Not getting off your head. Fun hedonism is about clothes and food and music and being in love with love and just generally indulging in being yourself rather than indulging by trying to be anyone else.

From:

madaboutit

A: love love, just don't see why it's wrong to want it with only one person. B: what the fuck makes you think me indulging's bout me trying to be someone else?

From:

everythinglost

We're talking about appearance not facts. Being in love with love makes it look like you're a lot more open. Getting really high makes it look like you want to be in an altered state.

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madaboutit

Why the fuck would I want to look open? I don't want to be.

From:

everythinglost

Do you enjoy have the conversation about how you should be more open and emotionally available every couple of weeks?

From:

madaboutit

So you're saying I should lie instead?

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everythinglost

I'm saying that lying - or misrepresenting things - takes care of a lot of problems.

I'm not saying you should do it, as these are personal choices.

Though I have to say, you haven't given off the impression of being that monogamous.

From:

madaboutit

Never lied to one of them bout it. Fucking isn't the same as giving yourself to someone. Always make sure they know that upfront.

From:

everythinglost

That's not my point, it's pretty obvious you're not into the lying thing.

[An inexplicable choice that some people make.]

But I suppose it's just emotional monogamy.

From:

madaboutit

When I love someone and she loves me, I only wanna fuck her. Real type, just don't have her yet and don't see the need to abstain in the meantime.

From:

everythinglost

See, being an actual romantic like that is another thing that can get in the way of hedonism.

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madaboutit

How's that?

From:

everythinglost

It's a barrier. When I'm enjoying myself, there aren't any barriers to be found.

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madaboutit

And that's just how it is even when you're in love?

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everythinglost

Yeah, though it probably helps that we're the same in that way. Both still sleeping with - still also loving - other people at the same time. Being in love with the wonders of the whole universe. But still have the compass always point the same way, underneath.

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madaboutit

Don't know what that compass shit means. Take it you're someone that can be in love with a lotta folk at once?

From:

everythinglost

It means that whatever else I do, whoever else I love, part of me will always be with them. It doesn't mean I don't love other people, it's just not the same and couldn't take anything away.

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madaboutit

You think monogamy's bullshit then?

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everythinglost

Not at all, you shouldn't be so black and white about these things. It's not for some people, but that's true for everything. I wouldn't even put myself in that category, I've had monogamous relationships and enjoyed them.

It's like sexuality.

From:

madaboutit

Still working on that one too. Faerie tend to lean into hard lines even in the loopholes.

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everythinglost

One of the many ways it can be easier to be human. Though the faerie I've run into ave been quite good at leaning into those loopholes. Maybe the benefit of high rank.

But even if you hold hard lines for yourself, it's clear you know it's not the same for other people. Other people's take on monogamy doesn't make yours bullshit, anymore than someone else not liking rules means your rules no longer exist.

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madaboutit

More breed than rank. No one wants to deal with someone that constantly fucks them over. As for different lines, ain't gonna argue. I'm just stuck living in a world that constantly tells me I'm wrong and need to change to succeed. And be happy.