Has some real problems with capital-A Authority, so if you want to get him to listen to you, don't approach it like you're his boss! You can get to pushy if you get there through friendly, but if you start out trying to order him around he'll write you off in a hurry.
Also, if you're going to try real hard while you're his temp, do not be the kind of dick that drops him immediately once you're reassigned. He doesn't need to get jerked around like that.
It has been months, and I am dismayed to report that Fitz seems to have made little to no progress on healthy boundaries.
I fear that not having a permanent warden is preventing him from making steady progress on that issue (as well as the many others he will need to work on in order to graduate). If you are temporarily paired with him, expect him to blow off the initial conversation, but don't take it personally. Try to have fun with him since, as others have noted, too direct an approach is likely to be counter-productive.
Do be aware that most of the time he is just saying things. He delights in saying things. If you are trying to discuss something that's actually important, don't let him distract you with that tactic.
I believe his own negative mindset is holding him back, as his intelligence makes him adept at coming up with excuses and rationalizations to not even try to better his situation. In fairness to him, his situation is complicated, but surely not hopeless. I believe he needs to be challenged, but also inspired to re-evaluate what's possible and impossible for him.
If you see him treating his own safety in an overly cavalier manner, I would like to know about it.
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Date: 2022-04-22 09:40 pm (UTC)If his stories sound too outlandish to be true, they are 100% factual.
The unicorn really takes the cake.
- P. Min
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Date: 2022-04-23 06:28 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-04-24 03:24 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2022-07-03 07:58 pm (UTC)Also, if you're going to try real hard while you're his temp, do not be the kind of dick that drops him immediately once you're reassigned. He doesn't need to get jerked around like that.
- ZYL
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Date: 2022-09-06 05:27 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2023-06-29 09:44 pm (UTC)I fear that not having a permanent warden is preventing him from making steady progress on that issue (as well as the many others he will need to work on in order to graduate). If you are temporarily paired with him, expect him to blow off the initial conversation, but don't take it personally. Try to have fun with him since, as others have noted, too direct an approach is likely to be counter-productive.
Do be aware that most of the time he is just saying things. He delights in saying things. If you are trying to discuss something that's actually important, don't let him distract you with that tactic.
I believe his own negative mindset is holding him back, as his intelligence makes him adept at coming up with excuses and rationalizations to not even try to better his situation. In fairness to him, his situation is complicated, but surely not hopeless. I believe he needs to be challenged, but also inspired to re-evaluate what's possible and impossible for him.
If you see him treating his own safety in an overly cavalier manner, I would like to know about it.
—Kotomine